(Using Discontent to Build the Dream You’ve Been Avoiding)

If Valentine’s Day makes you want to roll your eyes so hard you sprain something, stay with me.
Because this Valentine’s Day, we’re not talking about romance, roses, or whether someone remembered to buy the right color chocolate box.

This year, the day of “love” is officially being reclaimed — for you.

Inside the February Membership theme, we explore a truth women with Type 2 diabetes rarely hear:

Your longings are not silly. Your discontent is not failure.
And your dreams are not frivolous.

They are information. They are guidance.
They are invitations from the woman you’re becoming.
In other words: they are medicine. And today’s prescription is simple:

Ask yourself the question you’ve avoided for years:

What would you love?

Not:
“What’s practical?”
“What’s realistic?”
“What would make people happy?”
“What keeps the peace?”

No.
What would you love?

Because every transformation — especially one involving your health, glucose stability, self-worth, and identity — begins with longing.

Step 1: Write Out Your Discontent (Yes, All of It)

Most women never allow themselves to admit what’s not working.
They sugarcoat. They justify. They minimize.
They “it’s fine” themselves into misery.
They start with “yeah, but my circumstances…”

But in the February theme, we make room for a spiritual and emotional law:

Discontent is direction.

Discontent reveals where life is pinching you, pulling you, or whispering, “This isn’t who you truly are.”

Grab a notebook. Be blunt. Be unfiltered.
Be honest in a way you rarely are with yourself. Burn it later if you must!

Write down:

• What frustrates you?
• What drains your energy?
• What feels heavy?
• What routines no longer feel aligned?
• What relationships feel imbalanced?
• What habits pull you away from your best self?
• What thoughts hurt more than they help?
• Where do you abandon yourself?
• Where have you been shrinking?
• Where have you been tolerating too much?

And yes — write the diabetes discontent too:

• “I’m tired of feeling tired.”
• “I’m tired of numbers controlling my mood.”
• “I’m tired of caring for everyone else but me.”
• “I’m tired of feeling guilty for wanting more.”

This is not negativity. This is clarity.
You cannot transform what you refuse to acknowledge.

Step 2: Turn Discontent Into Desire (The Hidden Doorway to Your Dream)

Every piece of discontent has a corresponding dream.

For example:
(Use words that anchor to you. I AM, I enjoy, I am grateful for…  Not “I want” “will have” “will try” “don’t have”)

Discontent: “I hate relying on willpower.”
Desire: “I experience ease in my choices.”

Discontent: “I feel invisible.”
Desire: “I am expressed, seen, and honored.”

Discontent: “I’m tired of glucose swings.”
Desire: “I enjoy consistent energy.”

Discontent: “I’m overwhelmed all the time.”
Desire: “I am peaceful, and live a life that supports me.”

This process is how we transform emotional heaviness into guidance —
the same process we teach inside RE²A²CH and Divine Disruption, where longing is sacred, not shameful.

Your longings are messages from your future self saying:

“Come this way. I already exist. Let me lead.”

Step 3: Create the Vision Snapshot (The REACH Method: Elevate)

Now we elevate.

Inside the RE²A²CH Method, the Elevate step is where you hold the vision long enough for your nervous system to experience it — even for a few seconds.

This is NOT a long-winded vision board assignment.
This is a moment of embodied clarity.

Close your eyes.
Imagine your life 12 months from now.

• What would you love to feel in your body?
• What would you love to see in your glucose patterns?
• What would you love to experience emotionally?
• What would you love your daily routine to look like?
• What would you love your confidence to feel like?
• Who would you love to be in your relationships?
• What would you love to believe about yourself?
• How would you love to treat yourself?

Hold the snapshot for 10–15 seconds.
This is enough for your Reticular Activating System (RAS) to say:

“Oh… this is where we’re going now?
Excellent — I’ll start scanning for anything that matches this.”

This one tiny elevation moment rewires:
• attention
• decision patterns
• emotional tone
• appetite cues
• motivation pathways
• and yes — metabolic behavior

You are not forcing yourself to change.
You are remembering who you’re becoming.

Step 4: Ask the Million-Dollar Question — What Would You Love to Do FIRST?

Dreams are powerful.
But they stay dreams without a micro-step.

This is where women sabotage themselves — they try to change everything at once.

No. Change begins with one aligned shift.

Ask yourself:

“What is ONE small step the woman in my vision would take today?”

Examples:

• Drink a full glass of water before lunch
• Add protein to breakfast
• Walk for 10 minutes after dinner
• Say “No, thank you” instead of people-pleasing
• Pause before eating when stressed
• Put hand on heart for 20 seconds
• Sit down to eat slowly
• Prep a vegetable
• Go to bed 20 minutes earlier

One step each day is enough. One step builds identity.
One step grounds the vision in the physical world.

Your nervous system doesn’t need perfection — It needs direction.

Self-Love Isn’t Bubble Baths — It’s Alignment

Inside the February Membership Magazine, we talk about self-love differently:

Self-love is not chocolate, candles, or spa days. Self-love is alignment.

Self-love is:
• telling the truth
• honoring your needs
• slowing down
• choosing foods that support you
• saying “No” without guilt
• setting boundaries without apology
• tending to your glucose like a sacred relationship
• dreaming without shrinking
• showing your heart what is possible

Self-love is not a feeling.
It is a frequency.
A choice.
A pattern.

When you ask yourself “What would I love?”
you begin to rebuild a relationship with yourself —
one where you matter as much as everyone else you’ve cared for.

Your Valentine’s Day Assignment

Let’s make this practical and powerful.

Step 1: Write your discontent list.
Get it all out. No sugarcoating.

Step 2: Flip each discontent into a desire.
This is your dream blueprint.

Step 3: Create your 10-second vision snapshot.
Feel it.
Let your body register it.
This is your Elevate moment.

Step 4: Choose ONE aligned step you will take today.

Then —
in the comments,
share your step.

Not for me.
For you.
As a commitment.
As self-love.
As accountability.
As choosing yourself on Valentine’s Day in a deeper way than any heart-shaped box ever could.

Because the woman in your vision?
She is waiting for you.
And she loves you already.

If you’re ready to create a vision you can actually live into

Step into the structure, support, and transformation inside REACH for Results:
Or book a free strategy call to explore your dream and your discontent with clarity and compassion:

Your dream is not random.
It is your highest version calling you forward.
Say yes to her. Nervous? Do it anyway.

References
Mrazek et al., 2013 — visioning + attention systems
Dweck, 2006 — identity formation
Slavich & Irwin, 2014 — emotional stress + inflammation
Thayer & Lane, 2000 — emotional regulation + vagal tone